Are you asking for what you want?

Sometimes I don’t ask for what I want and then I end up tolerating things I don’t need to.

Recently, I received a jury duty summons.

The summons was sitting on my desk for a while and I was resigned to going, but as the date approached I felt more and more squeezed by the time commitment.

I don’t know if it is ever convenient, but at this moment in my life, it truly isn’t convenient.

So, this morning when I picked up the summons to look at the details AGAIN, (as if I could wish my way out of going), I decided to see if I could postpone for 6 months.

I called the number and found out that I was calling too late…

For a moment I thought, oh well, I guess it was meant to be.

Then I decided to call the number that they said you could call if there were extenuating circumstances.

I wasn’t sure I qualified, but I thought, “why not try?

They can only say no.

So, I called.

The woman asked me a few questions.
I wondered to myself, “Are my answers ok? “.  I knew she was the gatekeeper of my jury fate.
Then she said, “How about January 19th, then you will only have to do 4 days?”


I couldn’t believe my ears… 4 days versus 5 days AND with the date in my calendar, I could plan for that time.

I hung up the phone and felt RELIEF. 

Then I thought, WOW, so why don’t we ask? Here are a few reasons:

  • Fear of rejection
  • Fear of judgment
  • Complacency

And yet, there is a price of tolerating, it is called resentment and powerlessness that is unnecessary.

So, I invite you to push back on something that you are tolerating and ask yourself, is there something you can do about it?

Is there a request you can make of yourself in the form of an action or of another person?
You never know, just asking, the answer may surprise you.

It may be a gift you are waiting for.

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