It helps to ask…

Sometimes I don’t ask and then end up tolerating things I don’t need to. Recently I received a jury duty summons. I had the summons on my desk for awhile and I was resigned to going, but as the time approached I felt more and moresqueezed by the time commitment. I don’t know if it is ever convenient, but at this moment in my life, it truly wasn’t convenient.

So this morning when I picked up the summons to look at the details AGAIN, (as if I could wish my way out of going), I decided to see if I could postpone for 6 months.
I called the number and found out that I was calling too late…

For a moment I thought, oh well, I guess it was meant to be. Then I decided to call the number that they said you could call if there were extenuating circumstances.
I wasn’t sure I qualified, but I thought, “ why not try?” They can only say no.

So I called.

The woman asked me a few questions. I wondered “ Are my answers ok? “. I knew she was the gatekeeper of my jury fate. Then she said, “How about January 19th, then you will only have to do 4 days?”


I couldn’t believe my ears. 4 days versus 5 days AND with the date in my calendar, I could plan for that time.

I hung up the phone and felt RELIEF.

Then I thought, WOW, so why don’t we ask?

Here are a few reasons:
Fear of rejection
Fear of judgment

And yet there is a price of tolerating. It is called resentment and powerlessnessthat is unnecessary.

So I invite you to push back on something that you are tolerating and ask yourself, is there something you can do about it?

Is there a request you can make? Of yourself in the form of an action or of another person?

You never know, just asking, the answer may surprise you.

It maybe a gift you are waiting for.